Monthly Archives: July 2014

I don’t want to grow up…

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“I can’t wait to grow up! When I’m an adult, I’m going to stay up late, buy what I want, eat what I want, do whatever I want!” How many of you remember saying this? I know I did and I still hear it on a daily basis from my own children. It’s funny how things change…

“How do they change?” you ask. Well I’ll tell you! When you’re a kid, you spend so much time dreaming about growing up and making your own rules! The act of eating dessert for breakfast consumes your thoughts. The idea of playing with your toys early into the morning hours is exhilarating and dangerous! You plan on sleeping as late as you want and never taking a bath. You’ll laugh at the thought of having to ask to watch what you want on TV. Happy Meals will be your staple meal every. day. of. the. week. Not only will you order as many Happy Meals as you want but you’ll also go ahead and spring for that dipped cone! Everyone will be jealous of your shiny red sports car, the real one, not the one on the video game. Although, it will be an exact replica of that one. Oh and that little lie your mom and dad tell you about not having any money when you want that special, new toy, well it’s just that a dirty, rotten lie…you think…Yep, when you grow up you’re gonna buy all the new toys the day they come out and you’re getting a dog, scratch that you’re gettin’ ten dogs…and a cat! When you grow up, you’re gonna RULE!!!!!!

And, then you blink and you are a thirty-two year old “grown up”, married with kids. Being grown up isn’t quite how you pictured it. Sure you could stay up as late as you want but it’s not nearly as fun as you thought it was going to be. You quickly discovered what you’re parents were doing up so late. They weren’t playing Monopoly and watching cartoons while eating big bowls of cereal. They were cleaning up your messes and getting things ready to do it all over again the next day. When you were a kid you kicked and screamed because you had to go to bed, now you kick and scream because you WANT to go to bed, but there’s just, still. too. much. left. to. do! So much for those Happy Meals you planned on eating until your heart’s content. Now you know your heart’s content” depends on NOT eating greasy Happy Meals, but instead opting for the salad. Who need’s clogged arteries?

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You also soon realize…mommy and daddy weren’t lying about not having any money! Oh the atrocity! Sooooo……you’re married with children huh? How’s that TV watchin’ working out for ya now? Before you had to ask your parents, now you have to ask your spouse and kids! A person can only handle so much “Who lives in a pineapple under the sea?” SPONGEBOB, that’s who, now quit asking!!! If I was Squidward I’d hide too….. It was a sad day when you went to the car lot and realized you’re whole family couldn’t fit in that little red sports car….what do you mean it doesn’t fit eight! Now you’re back to square one, but instead of saying “when I grow up” you find yourself saying “when my kids grow up…..I’m getting that little red car!” “Honey, can we get a dog?” you ask your loving spouse. “NO” is the only reply you get. You’re a grown up and you’re still asking for a dog:) Heck, you can’t even have that dipped cone you were hoping for because your body retains too much fat! You don’t rule, you still have rules!

You now sit and listen to your children say “I can’t wait to grow up!” while you’re telling them “Oh yes you can!” I decided that being an adult is nothing but a glorified kid with responsibilities! Instead of having to ask your parents, you have to ask your husband or your wife! Now we can only dream of being made to go to bed or lay down for naps! Those were the days…when your meals were prepared for you, your clothes washed and ready for you to put on, your sheets were clean and your pillows were fluffy:) When your only worry was trying NOT to get grounded from the TV before the new episode of The Wonder Years came on. Now when you lay your head down at night to go to sleep, with thoughts running wild through your head, you find yourself singing the old tune…”I don’t want to grow up, I’m a Toy’s R Us kid…..”

XOXOXO~
~Mommamamom~

50 Shades of….Shame?

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“Why For! OH MY GOSH…put that book down! I thought I told you to NEVER look at my book EVER!” I screamed this as I walked into the room to find our oldest, studying a book that I had been reading. “Mama, this book has a bad word in it, it says F….” expresses Why For, innocently. Well, I’m sure by this point you are probably wondering at least two things. Number one…Why in the world would I forbid my child to look at my book, and number two….exactly what kind of book was I reading? Let me just tell ya, when it comes to the world we live in today it’s not just black and white anymore, there are a lot of Grey areas…Fifty Shades of Grey to be exact:) Haha!

Yes, I admit I read ALL the Fifty Shades books. I read them like I was in the witness protection program. I read them while wearing dark shades and a blonde wig! You all know what I’m talking about! You read it too. Didn’t you? How could anyone not be a little intrigued? What with women everywhere you looked, hurriedly pushing their carts through the grocery store in eager attempts to get the heck out of there and get home to their books. Women throwing sequels to the first one in their shopping carts and then piling the Charmin Ultra on top so nobody would see the shame that was awaiting them when they dug it out of the sack at home, but not before using the self checkout in an attempt to hide the smut, even from the checker. Throughout offices, churches, schools, hospitals there were hushed whispers of red rooms, chains and whips, mesmerizing eyes, and an oddly attractive young woman named Anastasia.

While reading the book, I found myself checking over my shoulder numerous times and turning as red as the walls of Mr. Grey’s pleasure room:) When people would ask “What are you reading” I would reply in a paranoid, high pitched, cracking voice…”What? Oh what am I reading? Oh um nothing, I mean it’s nothing, it’s just uh um oh you know one of those be a better parent books!” Of course, to be honest after the first day of receiving the book from a friend of mine I went straight home and got to reading. After reading the first few chapters I called my other friend and said “Oh Whitey, have I got the book for you!” Whitey was always saying…”I don’t have time to read” I hounded her non stop until she gave it a try and then we both pushed it on our gal pal Teener. Whom of course was instantly hooked!

My point here is the book Fifty Shades of Grey infiltrated the lives of women across the world like Justin Beiber’s haircut found its home on thousands of twelve year old boys’ heads across America. Yes, we were ashamed and exhilarated! Men were dropping to their knees with tears streaming down their cheeks crying up to the sky with praying hands uttering Thank you, thank you! Babies were being conceived and onesies were were flying off the shelves with cutesie little sayings such as 9 months ago my mom read fifty shades of grey.

This morning on the Today Show, they released the official trailer for the movie version of this risqué trilogy, well in true Mr. Grey fashion they could only show a portion of it because the full trailer was “too hot for morning TV” according to a writer for the Today Show website.  What does this mean for all of us secret and not so secret Grey fans?  HOLD ONTO YOUR HANDCUFFS CHICAS…February 13 is only 203 days away! Can I get a Vicki Gunvalson, Real House Wives of Orange County….. WOO HOO!!!!

XOXOXO~

~Mommamamom~

 

***DISCLAIMERS***

***I did in fact read and enjoy all of the Fifty Shades of Grey books.

***Our sixth child is questioned by some, to be a result of the Grey phenomenon……

***The fact that I like the Grey Books does not make me any less of a good steward of God, the fact that I admit to it probably makes me a better one! Keep it real people, no need to hide who you really are:)

***Why For never picked up another one of my books again…………….

 

To my dear child,

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This world is scary, it is big, mean, cruel, unjust, cold, evil, unloving, and at times very dark. I want you, my child, to be aware, stay alert and be on your toes at all times. Be ready to fight and stand up for what is right. Be ready to be judged, mocked, laughed at, and sometimes beat down. You will be yelled at, spit upon, cursed, possibly by the person you love the most. There will be times when you have to stay strong in the midst of complete and utter fear and despair. You can’t let your guard down, not even for a second. Your heart will be broken, you will lose jobs, you will lose loved ones to death and sometimes even worse…drugs and alcohol. You will see grown men cry and innocent children hurt beyond repair. In your lifetime you will witness famine and war. You will see people of power, people in which you are suppose to trust, lie, cheat, steal, and kill. Sadly you will hear of people being murdered because of their choice in clothes, lovers, music, freedom of expression. There will be children that kill themselves because the cruelty of other children is unbearable. In your lifetime you will have to watch your spouse, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters, or possibly even God forbid your children fight battles with cancer and other diseases. You will suffer loss so horrific that you won’t be able to see the sun shining for weeks, even on the brightest day. Sadly, there will be times you feel scared and alone.

However, you are not alone. “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6) I want you to know my dear child that through all of this you will never be alone. All earthly people will at times disappoint you, even me, the one who felt you grow from within me for nine months, even me, the one who prayed for your existence in my life and felt you grow within my heart. The greatest people will disappoint you in times of your greatest need. In all of your existence there will only be one that can truly give you what you need. There is only one that will always be there, showing you the love, grace and forgiveness that you need. You will not feel deserving or worthy of it. You won’t believe that it is really there. You will probably always question it. I do. But I want you to know and to believe that you are worthy and deserving and special. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Our God, your God is always there and never disappointing.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10) Now you know that through all the angst of the world in which you have no choice but to live in, there is hope. There is hope in God, and if you have hope in God then you have a chance at life. Please hold onto the hope and love that God gives you. If you can do this, you will live a life full of color and happiness. With hope in your heart you will see hunger being satisfied. You will see smiles and hear laughter. You will see war’s coming to an end and lives being rebuilt. With hope, doors will close and new ones will be opened for you. You will reach for the stars and succeed. You will see the good in helping people up after they have fallen. You will want to be the solid rock in which helps them climb up instead of the jagged edge that trips them. There will be first dates, first kisses and late night phone conversations. You will run and be free and oh baby, you will smile, will you ever smile! You will dance at your wedding and be a witness to life being born. You will know true love and pure joy. There will be sunsets and sunrises that are so beautiful that no words could ever describe. You will sing so loud you’ll lose your voice and dance so hard you’ll lose your breath. You will laugh, oh child, you will laugh so hard tears will fall! You will rejoice in battles that have been won, and you will hold onto those you love when they start to lose hope from battles lost. There will be birthdays and cake, yes, lot’s of cake! You will walk barefoot in soft grass and warm sand. You will swim in waters that have no end in sight. Did I mention you will love and you will be loved? There will be great joy in looking back at the years you have lived and knowing that you lived, you really lived a life full of hope, love, grace, and happiness.

There is one more thing I want you to know. Always remember that I love you. I have loved you from the beginning and I will love you until the end. There will be times I disappoint you and I know that there will be moments I am disappointed in you, but there is one thing that will never end and that is my love for you. A life without disappointment is no life lived at all. Go out and spread your wings. Live this life to the fullest. Achieve the greatest and don’t be afraid to fall, just get up and try again. Smile that beautiful smile of yours. It would be a disservice to the world to keep it to yourself. Try new things. Meet new people. Visit new places. Make mistakes and learn from them. Open your heart and mind and love life. Listen, listen, listen to the sounds of the world. And pray like there is no tomorrow. Ask for God’s guidance in all that you do and you will live a successful, promising life and you will leave a mark on this world to be proud of. “The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” (Psalm 118:6)

Love,
Your Mom…

P.S. I hope I’m there to see it all!

Loving Blindly in a Colorful World

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Colossians 3:12-14 says: Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Imagine if the world loved as God intended us too! If we loved in perfect unity would we suffer from hunger, sickness, abuse of any kind? Would we be terrified of the masses of children seeking shelter in our grand Country? Would we still live in fear to this day of losing what our soldiers, their families and our founding fathers have given their blood, sweat and tears for? Would we have to bring back heroes in coffins with flags draped over? Would we still be fearful of another 9/11 attack? Ask yourself this if we loved the way God asks us too, would we have to worry about our belongings being stolen out of our vehicles or being mugged, raped, or murdered coming out of the store after last minute Christmas shopping? Would our children be safe to walk home from school without carrying whistles and a can of mace? Would we have to worry about our children going to summer camp and being “alone” with other adults? What if our only worry was our child falling down and getting a scrape, when they went out to explore the neighborhood, instead of being snatched up by a stranger. Imagine what kind of world we would live in if more people truly used the Bible, God’s word, as a guide to live life! What if people behaved the same way they do in Church on Sunday throughout the whole week?

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13:34. Loving each other the way Jesus loves us would require an amazing amount of love, forgiveness, and a huge dose of open mindedness. The code that we live by today tells us that a love like this in impossible. We are taught to be judgmental and close minded. We are taught to be afraid of the homeless, the immigrants, the gays/lesbians and so many more. God doesn’t say show love to only those who YOU think deserve it. He doesn’t say shun the sinners. He doesn’t say only give to those who you know for sure need it. He says, “As I have loved you, you must love one another”. He says, “If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.” 1 John 3:17-18. He says, “If there is a poor man among your brothers in any of the towns of the land that the Lord your God is giving you, do not be hardhearted or tightfisted toward your poor brother. Rather be openhanded and freely lend him whatever he needs.” Deuteronomy 15:7-8. Did God not give us the WORLD? God does in deed talk about the sin of homosexuality in the bible, if you don’t agree read the book of Romans. But something else that he talks about is the fact that there is no one sin greater than the next. He is adamant in the fact that he, God, is the ONE and ONLY Judge. So for those of you who condemn others for their sin, I ask you one question…Have you, yourself lived a life without sin? LOVE the sinner, hate the sin. If we could hold true to this commandment everything would fall easily into place. To love in this fashion would mean to forgive, to not harbor hate in our hearts, to not spread malicious rumors (gossip), to not judge one another for our mishaps but to help each other up when we fall.

When we were given the choice to give our love to a child through adoption, Snookums and I knew the right answer immediately in our hearts. We sat the boys down (at that time their were 4) and we discussed what it would mean for our family to open up our hearts to another child. A child that would not look like us, a child that we had not been prepared for, a child that would be a different color, a child that may or may not have health concerns that we weren’t aware of, but ultimately a child our Heavenly Father made specifically for us! While discussing this, we explained to our children that people would more than likely look at us and judge. That at times it may be hard for them to take. I’ll never forget Why For’s answer to whether or not we should give our hearts, life and love to this beautiful child that did not grow in my belly. He simply said…”Well, she’s human ain’t she?”… “YES! She is.”, we exclaimed. “She deserves our love then.” he said.

God want’s us to have a child like innocence. To have an innocence like this would mean to love blindly. To love blindly would mean to love in the purest form. Maybe we should all strive to live by State Farm’s motto…”Like a good neighbor, State Farm I’ll be there.” So….imagine if we upheld one of the greatest commandments of all, to love one another the way Jesus loves us. Our world would be full of smiles and laughter. Our children wouldn’t know hunger or prejudice. We would all work together to clothe, feed, and nurture each other. God’s commandments would be our law. Imagine if we lived in a blind world!

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XOXOXO~
~Mommamamom~

99 Bottles of Beer errr ROOT beer on the wall…

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99 Bottles of Beer errr ROOT beer on the wall…

There’s nothing sweeter than the anticipation of an upcoming road trip! Your head is consumed with thoughts of what to pack, road trip games, what snacks will be best, perfecting your playlist for optimal memory making. Oh the memories that will be made from the impromptu stops a long the way. The funny stories you will be able to share of the less than stellar hotels you chose to crash in for the night. The stiff sheets are a small price to pay for the joy of seeing the sights of our beautiful land for the first time or maybe the 5th! Right?! Yes, of course….if you are a twenty something living your life with the freedoms us old fogies only dream of anymore! But what about if you’re traveling with kids or how ’bout six kids! Road trips take on a new meaning when you have precious cargo in tow! Long gone are the days of young! The sweet anticipation is still present and so are the thoughts that consume your head! The thoughts of what to pack will take on a new meaning of how am I going to pack everything and of course your playlist will still be important but the old songs will be replaced with songs such as Elmo’s potty song, the ABC’s and every hit title off of the Frozen soundtrack! Those impromptu stops will become well orchestrated potty breaks and you will give up nice meals in restaurants for sandwiches on the road just to save some cash so that your kids won’t have to sleep on “crunchy” sheets! Of course there’s always the thrill you get from booking a hotel room and having to lie about the number of children you will have with you (seriously, did you know that hotels won’t allow more than 3 kids to stay in the same room with you! They actually expect you to book a second room! Dang fire safety codes!!) If you’re anything like Snookums and myself you’ll just smuggle the other 3 in like a Columbian Drug Lord:) You start choosing your snacks by ratings of how messy they are and how much sugar they contain! You hand out perfectly measured amounts of liquid to drink, just enough to keep dehydration at bay but not enough to have to make an unplanned stop! Come on now, we gotta get where we’re goin’! Especially when you’re traveling cross country in a car with a bunch of screaming, whining, stinking kids!
Snookums and I try really hard to give our children the experiences in life that they deserve. Sure it’s hard to go on vacation with such a large family, heck it’s hard to go to the grocery store! People seem to think we’re nutty for going on adventures with our munchkins! We hear all the time comments like…”What if you lose one?” (trust me, whomever found our lost child would be finding us real quick!) or “How can you afford to take all those kids?” or “How are you going to handle six kids in an unfamiliar place?” On this particular comment I like to come back with “Well, I could leave a few here with you!” They get real quiet real quick and start fumbling over their words once that comes out of my mouth! hahaha! My personal favorite is “You must be really brave to go on vacation with all those kids!” I usually respond with my “crazy eyes” and say, very mysteriously “Am I?” 🙂 Sometimes I just want to scream “BIG FAMILIES WANT TO HAVE FUN TOO!”
Last summer, Snookums and I took our kids on an epic adventure half way across the U.S. to the one and only Myrtle Beach, SC. We made it a two week excursion! We decided that we would see the land on our way there and on our way back take a different route home and see some more! We planned for this trip for six months! The day before our departure we loaded down the family wagon! We had stuff packed inside, on top and on the back! Hey, guess what duct tape and trash bags work well when you are trying to protect stuff from rain! To say we looked like the Griswold’s would be an understatement we were the Griswold’s! *sidenote* if you don’t know who the Griswold’s are then please, please take a few hours, get on Netflix and watch National Lampoon’s Vacation. The next afternoon after lots of work and a quick last minute trip to Wal-Mart we were off on our adventure….well just as soon as we made an unscheduled stop at the local quick stop. Yes, Snookums surprised us all by pulling into the quick stop down the road from us…I just looked over at him and mouthed “really?” of course his response was “what :)*shoulder shrug* I’m thirsty!”…. Ok, now we are really off, yep headed out for the open road. Next stop nine hours away!……. Thirty minutes later….”Are we there yet?” and so it began!
In that six months worth of planning, I made each child a travel folder that contained fun activities for them to do, such as color pages, maps to follow, word puzzles and so on. I made sure that all the electronics were fully charged and we had plenty of charge cords. I bought new movies and plenty of “healthy” snacks. As you all know if you’ve ever traveled with children, they didn’t care about ANY of it! The only things that semi kept them occupied were the electronics and about thirty minutes of usage on those things and they were deader than a doornail. And of course it takes soooo long to recharge! We tried to occupy our time by going back a few decades…we played the car tag game, I spy, and sang 99 bottles of beer root beer on the wall. Well, we tried to play those games anyway through the deafening screams of the babies that were strapped down (in their seats of course) like Dr. Hannibal Lector in Silence of the Lambs. But hey, it was fun! We were making memories to last a life time:)
We spent five glorious days traveling to Myrtle Beach and one and a half days of hell coming back! hahaha:) So much for seeing more land on the way home huh?! You all have to agree with me though, the trip there is always full of fun and excitement but when it’s time to come home your only thought is you wished you were the proud owner of the DeLorean from Back to the Future! All kidding aside, we did have an amazing vacation with memories that will stay with all of us forever. We will always remember that first summer at the beach:)
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XOXOXO~
~Mommamamom~